Picture perfect & pathetic

I don't know how familiar you are with the world of Twitter chats. Basically, they're a fun way of interacting with other bloggers while answering questions & just chatting in general. Unfortunately, lately I feel like the chats have turned into an all-around feast for advertising blogs and no one really paid attention to the conversation anymore.

Enter #crazybloggers.

The mastermind behind The Persephone Complex, a blog I've loved almost obsessively for a few months now, set up this open minded chat, completely different from the usual 'What's your favourite beauty product for fall?' to 'Do you think posting risqué content would diminish your readership?' I am completely in love with this idea, in love with Holly, in love with being open about ourselves. Why shouldn't we post about things that are considered taboo - by doing so, we are only admitting that they are exactly that, and they shouldn't be.

I write content for my blog daily, yet there is a lot of stuff I don't talk about.

I don't tell you I take four pills every day.
I don't discuss the fact they made me gain over 30 pounds.
I don't tell you about my high school experience, which was truly abysmal.
I've never told you how awkward I was, how I thought no one would ever love me.
I didn't even discuss my depression and history of self harming, even though I promised I would.

You know, bloggers sometimes put up a front - at least I know I do. I pretend everything is so picture perfect, when in reality, sometimes I can barely hold it together. I write daily content for Nothin' Fancy. Really., I work full time, I'm trying to start so many new projects, I'm in a serious relationship. But I also have Borderline Personality Disorder with severe anxiety and panic attacks, I can't really look at myself when I'm not wearing clothes, I still have the urge to scratch my arms like I used to years ago. But on this blog and social media, I pretend like I'm such a fun, carefree person. Like I don't have a care in the world.

I'm not saying I'm unhappy. Actually, this is the happiest I've been in, well, ever. But I'm not perfect nor will I ever be. I want to open people's eyes and make them see that this is perfectly normal. No, it's not okay that you're unhappy, but other people feel this way, too. What you need to know is that you can get help! If you ever need to talk to someone, you can always write me an anonymous e-mail at nothinfancyreally@gmail.com. I'd love to hear from you.

This post doesn't have much of a point, does it? I guess I wanted to ask you whether you'd like me to talk about more serious topics sometimes. I'd love to discuss anything and everything, but sometimes I feel so limited and afraid. I'm being small-minded - I know. I want us to strive to a more open community, to help each other and better ourselves. And sometimes, it won't do any good to hide in that dark corner of your room you've deemed to be your safe place. Sometimes you need to open up and discover yourself - because it is only then that you will realize how beautiful you are.
What kind of topic would you like to discuss? Anything goes!

Tilen Time Thursday - Fall Essentials

Finally, another Tilen Time Thursday! For those of you that are new, Tilen is my boyfriend and sometimes, he likes to light up this little blog of mine with his posts. Here we go ...

Hey everyone, I know it’s been some time I wrote a post but I had to sort out some things with work and my faculty before I could get back to it. I usually don’t post about a lot of things but this time I decided to post some of my autumn attire.

The leaves are slowly but surely falling and we’re nearing the season to be jolly but we’re not quite there yet. It’s gotten really cold here but not so much so I’d have to start wearing a coat so that is why I’m sticking to knitwear such is the grey cardigan you can see in the picture. I also have one in dark blue and a darker shade of grey (yes, I have a thing for grey). I’ve bought all of them in H&M and they are lasting me quite for some time now. I was also lucky to get them on discount.

Next up we have some T-Shirts from H&M and Zara but don’t ask me which one is from where. I can only say for sure that the burgundy and black V-Necks are from H&M. I really wear these a lot since they are a bit longer and therefore a bit slimming.

The jeans are from Zara which was surprising for me since I usually don’t find a good pair of trousers or jeans in Zara since their sizes for men seem don’t seem to include tall and not-all-that-skinny people. If I find a good pair of jeans I’ll probably wear just them until I somehow wear them up and these are such a case. Most of the time I pair them up with the boots that I also featured here. I’ve taken up rolling the bottom part of them so I don’t step on them and I think it really looks good. 

Now I don’t know how other guys go about shoes but if I buy a new pair of shoes (actually, Živa bought me these) I want to be able to wear them at least for two seasons so that’s why I like to spend a little more on them. These weren’t that expensive and I’m sure they still have some if you check Deichman.

Then we have the wallet and the belt, both bought in Primark during our trip to Amsterdam. I have another belt like this with the same buckle only in black. The only thing I really went overboard during that trip was the beanies which I also got in Primark. They were sooo cheap so I said why not stock up.

The satchel (yes, it’s not a bag) was from C&A and comes with a strap. It really comes in handy when I have to go to work and don’t want to carry my backpack and it has really nice compartments.
Last but not least we have the Bvlgari Man in Black which is currently my favourite perfume, courtesy of Živa. It really smells so good and if I put it on it will last me through the entire day. I’m not good with describing scents so if you’d want a more thorough description you can read Živa’s post about it.

Well, that’s all for now. I know I always say that I’ll post more frequently but I really am trying. Hope you liked the post.

See you soon!

L'Erbolario Papavero Soave

Oh boy, do I have a good one for you today ... As you may have seen in one of my recent hauls, I received a bottle of L'Erbolario Papavero Soave EDP for review at work. I smelled this fragrance on my boss and it was amazing, so I knew immediately I would request it. I got it a few weeks ago and have not stopped wearing it since - even on days when I wear a different perfume, I end up spraying this on myself when it fades!

Papavero Soave is based off the scent of sweet poppies, coming from the Italian brand L'Erbolario (which is just lovely). It's a floral, sweet & spicy perfume with notes of poppies, jasmine, prunella and artemisia. To put it in layman's terms, it smells incredibly sweet and sexy, stays close to the skin but lasts ages. It's truly a gorgeous fragrance and so so perfect for the colder months! I am in love with this one!

You want to know the best part? Papavero Soave only costs around 20€ for a 50 ml bottle. Total bargain and really worth it in my opinion!
What is your favourite fall/winter perfume?